Silly Mistakes Men Make that turn off women

Men just after getting a little bit of success in the dating world, become overly excited and make the following mistakes just to get dumped bitterly. These mistakes men make are the reason you cannot keep beautiful girls running after you and instead turn off their attraction for you. So here are 30 mistakes men need to avoid to be successful in the art of dating.

Understand your situation and face reality. Many men make these mistakes, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. But now you have the chance to change your life. Be honest to yourself and fix your mistakes to get the upper edge in the dating game

Do the following exercise for best results:

Be honest to yourself and write down on a piece of paper which of the following mistakes you have made. It will serve as a good reminder to help you avoid that mistake in the future. At the end of the article, check out how many mistakes you have made so far.

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Cupid facts: A Perfect gentleman has no shortage of beautiful girls running after him

To be a gentleman, men need to avoid the following mistakes at all costs:

1)Being physical right off the bat

Girls have become more prudent over the years because of continuous hypocrisy against them regarding their sleeping habits. And because of that, they see guys who try to get physical right off the bat as being needy and desperate. Take your time; be confident she will be yours at the end. Don`t try to be physical on the first date. The second or third date is recommended by many experts. Now I recommend calibration since depending on your age and where you live etc the social norms might be different. Nevertheless, you can always do some hand-holding, hugging and kissing on the second or third date.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You will be the prize, not her. So to her, she came on to you and not the other way around. This helps you look much more desirable as she initiated it.
  • You don`t appear desperate and needy. This is mistake men need to avoid. Do not be desperate as you will tun off more women then you can count
  • Also, in the rare case that she is a nut case, you are slightly legally safe since she initiated it.

2)Talking about true love

The number one mistake men make is talking about true love when out on the first day. It’s so dumb when you think about it. How can you love the other person when you just met for the first time. A true gentleman won`t be such a sissy. Show her your manly side. Be realistic and also be the ideal gentleman you can.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You appear experienced and mature.
  • Girls always like guys mature than them.
  • Talking about true love on your first date is a turn off and shows you as needy

3)Talking about ex-girlfriends

Which moron thought this was a good idea. But millions do. This and talking about true love are mistakes men make all round the world. 1 out of 3 people has tried to pick up a girl by using the ex as an excuse. Like what the hell were you thinking guys..?? Use your brain and grow a pair. Be the most desirable guy, and you will never have any shortage of girls

annoyed girl mistakes to avoid in love with women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You don’t seem desperate.
  • Instead, you seem like a guy who has a lot to focus on in life and someone who doesn’t keep crying over the past.
  • You become a guy who respects women

4)Being creepy

Okay, which moron came up the idea to stalk women. Why should you ever run after women? Make the women run after you not the other way around. Don`t be desperate. I`ve seen numerous guys run after girls by stalking them on social media and real life. That’s just wrong. Don`t do it.

creepy stalker mistakes to avoid in love with women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You seem dependable and mature.
  • It’s a big turn on for the ladies.
  • Not only that you seem like a man of class, who has no shortage of girls. So she won’t be able to act like she’s the prize.

5) Texting and calling too much and being possessive

This my friends is the definition of desperation. Mistakes men make in these types of situations cost them their opportunity to be with their dream girl. Guys who do this are a big turn off to any girl. You do not want to look desperate and lonely. She is your partner, not your toy.

calling mistakes to avoid in love with women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become a cool and a person who has a busy social life.
  • You seem classy and not desperate for her attention.

6)Spending a lot for money on her

Never waste a lot of money on a girl. The occasional gift is excellent. But always stay in your limit. You should never spend a lot of money on girls. They become addicted to it, and every time, their expectations will grow. Bad for business and your wallet. Women will only use you for your money and then dump you later. Don`t be her ATM machine.

money mistakes to avoid in love with women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You do not attract gold diggers.
  • The occasional gift gives an instant high-level attraction.
  • You don`t seem desperate to please her.
  • You save a lot of money.

7)Being abusive to other girls or using offensive words while addressing women

Never abuse any girl. It’s never a good thing to do. Girls are really sensitive to this. Physical or verbal abuses and shaming is strictly condemned by the cupid. No matter the reason. Respect her just like you would respect your family member. Abusing women is a sign of weakness.

abuse turn off women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become a true gentleman.
  • Girls will respect you.
  • It shows your confidence in life.
  • Also, any girl will feel at ease being with you.

8)Ogling at other women

Looking at other women while being with your girl never ends well. The reality is girls don`t like sharing. She wants you to be only yours. You showing such behavior only helps to break her trust in you, making you lose your credibility as a true gentleman. Be a man of class and focus on only your women when you are with her.

staring at women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You seem like you have plenty of beautiful girls running after you.
  • You seem like a man class who isn’t swayed just by external beauty.
  • You also seem trustworthy to your partner.

9)Being indecisive

This is one of the biggest turn-offs for women when it comes to men. Being unable to make quick decisions is a sign of weakness. You need to be dependable and have the qualities of a gentleman. Manliness is the biggest attraction to women. Guys, you have to be the boyfriend, not her girlfriend. Stop showing your womanly side to her. It will only ruin your chances with her.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You show the quality of leadership, which is attractive to women.
  • It helps women trust you to take care of difficult decisions and makes you dependable.

10)Being lazy

A lazy guy is the worst partner to women. They want their men to take care of themselves. The moment they see your lazy habits, they know the future of living with you. When it doesn’t look good, they definitely won`t be together with you. Show her that you can take care of yourself and that you don`t want a babysitter; instead, you want a partner.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become dependable.
  • You also look like a gentleman who is focused on his career and life and who always strives for success.
  • You show the quality of being independent and decisive as well as being dependable in times of need.

11) Being unclean and smelly

This is a huge turn-off. Being clean and fragrant great is the key to getting girls to love you. Girls are more sensitive. A guy who cannot even clean himself and be fresh is an absolute turn off. Imagine her kissing you and getting nauseated by your foul smell. She will run the other way. Be clean and attractive.

smelly

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become a lot more attractive to the ladies.
  • You seem dependable and mature.
  • An independent man is always a turn on.

12) Being too fat or too skinny

Not taking care of your body is never a good sign to girls. Being too fat or too thin makes you look lazy and weak; both are bad for winning the dating game. Reality is harsh; my friends and girls only want the best genes. I won`t sugarcoat the harsh reality of life, so do learn this critical fact in the art of love. Looks matter.

fat and thin

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You look much attractive to women.
  • A great body shows signs of independence and leadership — keys to winning the dating game.
  • You remain healthy and live longer.

13) Being a career less weakling

Having a life is the primary goal. Dating is secondary. Do not waste time on dating when you don`t have a job or business. Have goals and dreams. Be passionate about what you love then make time for dating. Having a successful career is the most imperative necessity for all the ladies on this planet.

careerless mistakes to avoid in love and turn off girls

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become successful.
  • Have a good career and become financially stable.
  • You also become independent and attractive to women all around the world.

14) Being financially unstable

Women want stable partners. The fact that you do not earn money is a big turn off. Also dating with parent’s money is just wrong. Making money has no age limits. Do a part-time job. Learn to be financially stable. It shows a lot of good qualities at once, especially if you are young. You will turn her on big time.

homeless mistakes to avoid in love and turn off girls

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become much more financially stable.
  • You become attractive to women.
  • You get more life experience.

15) Being weak and insecure

Women always want a dependable man in their life as their partner. That’s why women love men who are financially stable as well as older than them. Being weak and insecure makes you seem undependable and pushes you to the friend zone. Be the man in the relationship.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become strong physically and mentally
  • You become beautiful to women
  • Your health and confidence improve, as well.

16) Being Overly angry and aggressive

Getting agitated on silly things is a huge turn-off. A person with such a personality is avoided by both men and women alike. Even anger has to be in the right amount. An overly aggressive person is a lousy partner. Hence you will be dumped and avoided like the plague.

angry mistakes to avoid in love and turn off girls

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become healthy emotionally and can take better decisions
  • You become beautiful to women
  • Your social life and confidence improve, as well.

17) Neediness

Being needy and asking for approval every time is the biggest turn off for girls. As mentioned before, girls only want a strong man in their life as a partner. Being needy shows a lack of confidence insecurity and a lot of negative traits. Worst traits for a partner.

needy

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You become more confident
  • You become more successful
  • You become dependable.

18) Socially awkward

Women like to show off their partners, especially to their friends. If you are unable to maintain a proper conversation, then obviously you will be a big turn off to your partner. Being social is a requirement for dating. Girls are social creatures. They like showing off it’s their nature. Be someone she can show off to the world.

awkward

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Better social life
  • Less awkward conversations
  • Plenty of dating opportunities

19)Egoism and unkind attitude

Having over the top ego leads to non-stop conflicts and fights. People with egos will also act rudely to other people thinking of themselves as superior. These qualities turn off women more than anything else. No one wants a partner with a lousy ego problem.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Better social life.
  • Plenty of opportunities for getting to know more people and especially more cute girls.
  • You become more successful.
  • You become dependable.

20)Chauvinism/Sexism

Being racist or sexist is a big turn off. Ask any girl. Girls are attracted to genuine kindness.  Being sexist especially is offensive to many women, and they will instantly break up with you. Learn to respect women. That is a must for every gentleman.

annoying

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Better social relations with peers and other women in your life
  • Women will respect you
  • Shows that you’re a true gentleman.

21) Dishonesty and breaking promises

The relationship of love is wholly built on trust. Lying and breaking promises breaks trust, and this is the worst possible mistake you can make. Never break promises. Don’t make promises if you cannot keep them. Lying is bad cause it causes mistrust and leads to more trouble in the future.

lier

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Women will respect you
  • Shows that you’re a true gentleman.
  • You become dependable and trustworthy

22) Bad language skills

This is an obvious one. Grammar and language style plays an important role. Girls tend to have a short temper with men who cannot get the necessary English grammar correct.

Words like”Hwwz u yeww?? hzz iz u..?? Etc. Are the biggest annoyance. Get a spelling check software or app.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You sound professional
  • You sound smarter and an intellectual
  • Also, it’s better for your social and academic life as well as your career.

23) Disrespecting others

Disrespect people is a big warning sign to women. Especially parents, elders, and other people. This shows a lack of kindness to others and is not a sign of girls like in their prospective mates. Avoid this, please. This makes you look petty and are signs of a bad personality.

direspect

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Women will respect you
  • Shows that you’re a true gentleman.
  • You become dependable and trustworthy
  • Also, it’s better for your social and academic life as well as your career.

24)Melodramatic

Being too emotional and a cry baby is a perfect way to get dumped. The men of this generation have become total cry babies. They cannot even handle a little bit of pressure. This drama is a huge turn off for women. It’s the women’s job to do the drama in the relationship

avoiding this mistake and not turn off women by being desparate

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Better social life
  • You become more dependable
  • Better emotional health

25)Pessimistic

Being negative all the time in life is not what anyone wants in their partners. Smart Women tend to avoid negative people like the plague. Don be pessimistic. It’s annoying and a big turn off to all those smart, beautiful women in the world. Be a man who can brighten up her day and help her be positive.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Better social life and emotional health
  • You become more dependable and attractive
  • Leadership skill which is most required.

26) Selling yourself short.

A relationship is an exchange and not a service. You don`t take care of her without getting anything in return. This my friends is the number one reason for the dreaded friend zone. Have self-respect and learn to say the word “no” to her. If she doesn`t do what you want her to do with you. Then the only way to save the situation is to become a perfect gentleman who doesn’t need to depend on any women.

avoid this mistake and not turn off women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Better social life and emotional health
  • You become more dependable and attractive
  • You do not fall in the friend zone category

27)Nice Guy syndrome

Guys who in the right mind told you that being nice to her is the way to impress her. No, there is no need to be nice. Being respectful and being nice are two very different things. Guys think that if I am nice to her, she should date me. That my friends is the biggest myth on the planet. Guys do so many things for her that she takes you for granted and thus direct entry to friendzone. You are a gentleman, don`t be a nice guy. Nice guys always finish last.

benefits of avoiding this mistake and not turn off women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Better social life and emotional health
  • You do not fall in the friend zone category
  • You become manly and self-confident.

28)The best friend approach

Another myth among men that you can be her boyfriend by being her best friend. Like who comes up with these dumb ideas in the first place. Trying to be a Best friend is the same as saying “I want to be the bridesmaid at your wedding”. Can you see how dumb it sounds?

benefits of avoiding this mistake and not turn off women

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You do not become a dumb person
  • You do not fall in the friend zone category
  • You clear your intentions properly.

Must read: Signs you are stuck in the friend zone

29) Complimenting her way too much.

Showering someone with compliments is the shortcut to getting dumped, rejected and the VIP ticket to the friend zone. Girls only like genuine compliments. Beautiful girls hate compliments about their looks. Every guy has been using the same boring lines on her since the beginning of time. Call her smart instead she will really appreciate that. One compliment a day is the limit if you are always together, otherwise its once a week. The rarer it is, the more it is appreciated.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • You do not get rejected
  • You appear a genuine, smart man
  • You appear much more desirable to women.

30) Not clearing your intentions.

Men scared of rejection hide the true intentions that they are interested in dating with them. This leads to them getting friend-zoned. The correct time to ask her out is when you have built enough attraction in her heart. When she shows the signs of being attracted to you, that is when you ask her out. Don’t creep her out by saying I love you the first time you guys meet. That’s stupidity 101. These Mistakes men make cost them their chance at dating.

Benefits of avoiding this mistake:

  • Correct timing creates a lot of attraction
  • You do not get rejected
  • You show the qualities of a gentleman.

Bonus Tip-

The dating world is similar to war. You cannot show mercy to the competition. Do not let the other guys steal your girl. Stop their advances. Show no mercy. She is your girl. Don’t let her be taken. Be the alpha gentleman that every other guy is afraid of competing against. By showing your manliness, you not only attract her but also repel other guys away from her.

everything is fair in love and war

Now check the piece of paper you took at the beginning of the article. I hope you noted down the mistakes you make while dating. I know the number might be very big but fear not, they are easy to repair and will make your future filled with romance. Be sure to check out the following two guides which will help you achieve success in the dating world and help you become a true gentleman.

Must-read guides by Mr Cupid

You learned all the mistakes made by men in dating and in love. Learn from them and never repeat those mistakes. By learning the art of love and being a true gentleman, you can get all the beautiful girls all to yourself.

I hope this guide helped you so that you do not turn off women you find attractive. Do read the other guides for men to be a master in the art of love. Share the article and help your fellow gentlemen.

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